Old ways of mate selection are being replaced by dating apps, but these apps fail to provide the core ingredients of love. Utopia uses an opt-in signal (via jewelry) of searching for partners, and uses a system of bounties to align incentives.
I feel like there should be some standardized online dating profile of people who opt into being available, and a way of publicly accessing the profiles of those within, say, 100 feet of you. That would help with filtering while minimizing invasion of privacy.
One idea that I wanted to squeeze into this essay, but didn't find a place for is the idea of a way, on a dating website, to signal interest in dating someone *only if* they've also indicated a specific interest in dating you. This was the basis behind the old reciprocity.io site (now defunct, IIUC), and seems like a neat idea in contexts where it would be costly to show interest to those who aren't interested.
I feel like there should be some standardized online dating profile of people who opt into being available, and a way of publicly accessing the profiles of those within, say, 100 feet of you. That would help with filtering while minimizing invasion of privacy.
One idea that I wanted to squeeze into this essay, but didn't find a place for is the idea of a way, on a dating website, to signal interest in dating someone *only if* they've also indicated a specific interest in dating you. This was the basis behind the old reciprocity.io site (now defunct, IIUC), and seems like a neat idea in contexts where it would be costly to show interest to those who aren't interested.